Premature or rapid ejaculation affects many men during their lives at some time or other and is probably the most common of male sexual problems. Its roots are based around anxiety and often it is 'lifelong' which seems a great injustice especially as, with the right treatment, premature ejaculation has very high rates of 'cure'. Perhaps this is indicative of the male propensity to suffer in silence especially considering the shame potential of speaking about something so intrinsically male defining – his penis!
What is Ejaculatory control?
When we speak of premature ejaculation or PE as it is abbreviated to, it is often stated in terms of 'coming' quickly within 30 seconds to a minute of sexual intercourse. But it is really about the involuntary control of the ejaculation process leaving no choice as to when ejaculation will occur. One can imagine how distressing this is over time, the affect on self-esteem, masculinity and relationships; it only takes a few occasions of PE to eat away at confidence and become a foregone conclusion in the man's mind or, worryingly, to avoid intercourse or try any practice to correct the dysfunction.
Sex therapy for PE
What sex therapy aims to do through exercises, education and talking therapy is to develop more self control in the ejaculatory process such that a man may begin to enjoy the high levels of sexual arousal enjoyed by many men. Ejaculation can never be controlled perfectly but having the choice to come quickly or maintain fluctuating levels of arousal make for an increased satisfaction with self and, if in relationship, a partner.
Online help with PE. I have extensive experience working with PE in individuals and as part of a couple relationship. Contact me to arrange a confidential initial assessment on 07813 944 146.